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Why Injury Recovery Feels So Exhausting for Teen Girl Athletes
If you’re a teen girl athlete reading this while you’re injured, I want to start by saying something I believe doesn’t get said nearly enough:
This is hard. Really hard.
Not just because your body hurts. Or because you’re missing games, practices, or competitions. Because being an athlete is so much more than just something you do.
For many girls, sport is where you process emotions after a rough day. It’s where your closest friendships are built. It’s where you feel capable, confident, and strong. It’s where you know who you are.
So when an injury sidelines you, it’s like someone pulled the rug out from under your entire world.
Sport Decline in Teen Girls
Some days being a teen girl in sport can already feel like things are stacked against you.
Maybe you play on a co-ed team and you’ve started noticing the subtle separation that comes with getting older like the different change room situations, inside jokes you’re no longer part of, or the way the boys seem to bond differently with each other.
You might be feeling increasing pressure to look a certain way, while your body is changing and you’re trying to perform at a high level.
Or maybe you’ve watched friend after friend stop playing sports altogether. We know that girls leave sport at significantly higher rates during adolescence than boys, often because of a combination of confidence, body image, social pressures, and lack of belonging.
Then, on top of all of that…
You get injured.
It’s understandable that staying positive suddenly feels impossible at times.
Emotional Radar Overload
You notice the concern in your parents’ faces. Your coaches ask how you’re doing. Teammates tell you they miss you. You become incredibly aware of everyone else’s seeming worry, disappointment, or uncertainty.
Eventually, you might reach a breaking point and decide:
“I’m just not going to think about it.”
“I’ll deal with it later.”
“I’ll think about recovery when I absolutely have to.”
It might feel like the easiest option. But here’s something interesting- Avoiding difficult thoughts and feelings isn’t free.
It costs you energy. Sometimes a lot of energy.
Your Brain The Security System
When there’s something unresolved that feels threatening like,
- fear about returning to sport
- grief over your injury
- worries about losing your position
- frustration with your body
your brain doesn’t simply forget about it because you’ve decided not to think about it. Instead, it’s like your threat detector stays plugged in 100% of the time.
Even while you doom scroll or hang out with friends, part of your nervous system is working overtime in the background, constantly monitoring for danger and trying to keep uncomfortable thoughts locked away.
That takes an incredible amount of mental energy.
At first, you might not notice it, but then little things start showing up. Exhaustion even after resting. Your recovery feels slower than expected. Motivation is lost, especially for the things you normally enjoy. And you seem to be getting sick more often.
So you might start pulling away from friends or just notice you are more irritable than usual. Or perhaps you simply feel…disconnected.
None of this means you’re doing recovery “wrong”. It may simply mean your nervous system (brain and body) are carrying a heavier load than anyone can see.
The Choice to Make
The interesting thing about avoidance is that it often promises temporary relief but in the end keeps us stuck. The more we push thoughts away, the louder they tend to become. The more we distract ourselves from uncomfortable emotions, the more exhausting it becomes to keep the distractions going.
It’s a bit like trying to hold a beach ball underwater.
You can absolutely do it… But eventually your arms get tired.
So what’s the solution? I’m actually not here to tell you what you should do. Only that you get to decide what’s right for your recovery.
What if, instead of spending all of your energy trying not to feel, you slowly began using that energy to heal? By safely and confidently facing the discomfort instead of running from it.
Don’t dismiss me yet.
Facing the discomfort can look many ways- here are some foundations:
- Learning how to regulate your nervous system
- Working with someone who understands the emotional side of sports injuries
- Giving yourself permission to grieve what you’ve lost while still holding hope for what’s ahead
- Recognizing that healing is beyond muscles, ligaments, and bones
- Reflecting and documenting your journey
- Talking to your trusted people a little at a time on your terms
For some athletes, evidence-based trauma therapies can also be incredibly helpful. If your injury or recovery has become overwhelming or emotionally “stuck,” approaches such as Progressive Counting or EMDR can help your brain process those experiences so they no longer feel so intense. Instead of spending all your energy avoiding them, your nervous system can finally begin to settle.
To Remember in the Midst of Recovery
Your mind was never trying to make recovery harder. Avoidance was your brain’s attempt to protect you, whether it was trying to reduce pain or keep you safe.
But sometimes the strategies that help us survive in the short term become the very things that keep us stuck in the long term. Imagine what recovery could feel like if all of that energy currently spent avoiding, distracting, and procrastinating became available to you again.
That energy can now be re-directed towards connecting, healing, laughing, and rebuilding you when you’re ready.
Energy to become not just the athlete you were before, but someone who understands herself more deeply because of everything she’s been through.
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With gratitude,
Chantal
