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The Side of Sports Injury Recovery No One Talks About
Recovery is so much more than healing the body. And for teen girl athletes who love their sport for all it brings to their lives like friendships, confidence, and a sense of identity, recovery feels non-optional.
You might be known as the:
Goalie that doesn’t let much through
Teammate who always shows up
Athlete who never gives up
Sport can become such an important part of how you see yourself and how others see you.
So when injury happens, whether it’s a concussion, a torn ligament, a stress fracture, or another setback, it is felt much more than just simply a physical injury.
It’s like losing a part of who you are, even if it’s temporary.
When Injury Rocks Your World (not in a good way!)
First of all there’s the pain you are working through and the time away from sport.
But injury can also bring:
Loss of routine
Different feeling connection with teammates
Changes in confidence
Feelings of isolation
Questions about the future
Uncertainty about who you are without your sport
These experiences can feel confusing and overwhelming, especially during this time when identity is already changing and unfolding in many other ways. If you have been feeling lost, unsure of yourself, or disconnected from what once felt familiar, it makes so much sense.
This is a very real and meaningful part of the recovery process. One that most athletes experience at one time or another, but isn’t always talked about openly. And that conversation would be a game changer!
Are You More Than Your Sport?
You bet! Sport may be a beautiful and important part of your life. But we are made of so many different parts, and our sports life is one of them.
You might consider other parts. Are you also a….
friend
daughter
sister
student
creative
fashion lover
lover of music
dreamer
nature admirer
person with unique strengths, values, and interests
Recovery can become an opportunity to reconnect with other parts of yourself. Not because your athletic identity is unimportant, or that you’re giving up on that part of your life, but because your worth has always been bigger than your performance.
Recovery as a Journey of Rediscovery
Healing forces us into thinking hard questions.
When will I be able to go back?
What if I can’t play again?
What if I’m not able to play in the same way?
What if I don’t fit in anymore?
What is even going on in my head right now?
These thoughts are perfectly normal, and not wrong in any way. But some of them don’t feel very supportive or don’t have answers to them right away so they can leave us scared and overwhelmed in the recovery process.
What if instead of giving these questions most of your time and attention, you chose to ask yourself questions that will help you along the way?
Questions that will drive your recovery into discovering more about yourself, your strengths, your capabilities, and what makes you incredibly you. How would that change your healing process?
Reflection Questions for Rediscovering Your Identity
Here are a series of questions you can write about, think about, voice or video record about. Find your way of giving some of these questions your attention and see what you discover.
There are no wrong or right ways to answer these. I suggest starting with any questions you feel pulled towards and definitely the questions you feel repulsed by (those are often the courageous growth ones!).
Reflection Questions
Take your time, maybe even answering one a day and allowing your ideas to flow freely.
About Your Sport
What do I love most about my sport?
When do/did I feel most alive while participating?
What moments made me smile or feel proud?
What qualities did I discover or develop while playing my sport?
About Joy and Connection
What activities make my heart feel full?
Who helps me feel safe, supported, and understood?
What do I enjoy about spending time with them?
About Your Values
What matters most to me right now?
What qualities do I admire in others?
What kind of person do I want to be known as?
About Curiosity
If no one had to approve or impress, what would I love spending my time doing?
What have I always wanted to try?
What am I naturally drawn toward?
Others to consider
What brings me joy?
What do I value in relationships?
What strengths do I have outside of sport?
What parts of me are ready to grow?
What If These Questions Feel Hard?
If you are looking at these questions and feel like they’ve got 10 heads or you’re just not into the question thing right now. That’s ok! Sometimes, when you are hurting or grieving, reflection can feel difficult. And sometimes it’s just not what you need right now.
In fact, identity is often discovered through experiences rather than through thinking alone.
Discovering Yourself Through Experimentation. One of the best ways to learn about yourself is to try things. Trying things that are new, unplanned, aimless (don’t have to have a goal in mind) can be the perfect assists in recovery & discovery.
This might include (but don’t have to):
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Going in nature
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Trying a hobby class
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Drawing or painting
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Journalling
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Volunteering
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Baking
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Hiking
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Reading something new
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Coding
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Learning an instrument
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Exploring a new club
The goal is not to find your “new thing”. It is simply to be, try, and get curious about your experience.
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What feels interesting?
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What energizes me?
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What feels meaningful?
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What do I enjoy?
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What do I not enjoy?
Each experience can give you little insight on who you are and are becoming.
The Power of Quiet Moments
Rediscovery and recovery also happen in the day to day moments where you can’t necessarily see the progress. In the moments you are taking a walk through your neighborhood, sitting by a river, journalling before bed, or having a conversation with someone you care about.
When you slow down (different than giving up!), you may begin to notice what captures your attention and what brings you a sense of peace.
These quiet moments can reveal parts of yourself that were always there, waiting to be noticed.
Grieving and Growing Can Happen Together
It is possible to deeply miss your sport and all that it means to you while also discovering new parts of yourself.
You do not need to choose one or the other.
You can:
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Grieve what you have lost (even if it’s temporary)
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Feel frustrated by the pace of recovery
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Miss your teammates
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Question your identity
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And still grow in powerful ways
Both experiences can be true at the same time.
Who You Are Is Still Here
Injury may change your routines, your goals, and the way you spend your time. But it does not erase who you are. Your courage, kindness, determination, and essence remain. And as you heal, you may discover that you are even more than you realized.
You are not starting over. You are getting to know yourself on a different level. And that process, while sometimes painfully uncomfortable, can become one of the most meaningful parts of your recovery journey.
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