Why Your Teen Feels Unmotivated
As a kid, Emma was full of energy, excited about soccer practice and hanging out with friends. But lately, she’s been dragging herself through the day—tired, unmotivated, and irritated with her parents over little things. She doesn’t want to, but she feels like she can’t help it. “She’s just on her phone too much and it’s making her lazy,” her mom thought at first. But then she noticed something: Emma wasn’t sleeping well, she was constantly retreating to her bedroom, and overwhelmed by many tasks. It wasn’t laziness at all—Emma’s “battery” was running low.
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And What a Cell Phone Can Teach Us
Think of your teen like a cell phone. For example, when too many apps are open (stress piling up), storage is almost full (mental overload), or the battery is low (lack of rest and recharge), things start to glitch- this is why your teen feels unmotivated. Likewise, just like a phone, teens function best in the right conditions—time to recharge, space to process emotions, and moments to be present without distractions. While they can’t always control life’s demands, they can make choices that support their well-being, like setting boundaries, taking mindful breaks, and being intentional about self-care.
In The Happiness Path (THP) group for teen girls, we help teen girls recognize what drains their energy and learn how to “charge” in a way that works for them. Through fun, creative exercises, they practice tuning into their needs, understanding their emotions, and creating habits that help them show up as their best selves. Motivation isn’t about pushing harder—it’s about learning to operate in a way that allows them to thrive. Because when they take care of themselves, just like a well-charged phone, they can function at their best.
Chantal Côté
Registered Psychologist & Teen Life Coach
Founder of Pyramid Psychology and The Happiness Path
I am a registered social worker with a Bachelor of Social Work with a major in psychology from the university of the Western Cape, and a Master’s in Clinical Social Work specialization with individuals, families, and groups from the University of Calgary.
